Author Archives: Barbara Kate Repa

About Barbara Kate Repa

Barbara Kate Repa is a lawyer, writer, and consumer advocate specializing in aging, long-term care, estate planning, and end of life issues. A former nursing home ombudsman, she currently serves as a counselor on a crisis line for the elderly as well as a legal advisor on Resident Councils in San Francisco care facilities.

Seniors’ Silent Cries for Help

Hands asking for help

Of all the unexpected changes, diminutions, and just plain annoyances that aging inevitably brings with it, those in the know agree that the hardest is losing what they’ve come to cherish most: their independence. Perhaps independence is so hard to give up because it’s so hard-won. Most people spend their youthful years longing for the […]

Wisdom of the Sages

Magical Woods

My glamorous friend’s glamorous mother died recently at age 90. She was known, among other things, for her youthful appearance, which allowed her to bluff about the true number of years she’d lived, even to herself, for her entire lifetime. Her secret, which she revealed to her daughter only on her deathbed: “Whatever you do […]

Celebrating Seniors: One Community’s Success Story

Pretty lights

Updated June 2025 Communities craving ways to keep their senior residents — and to keep them engaged and engaging — could learn a lesson from Oak Park, Illinois, a village with a population of 52,000 just west of Chicago. Boosters on its website claim that Oak Park “boasts excellent schools, world class architecture, shopping, dining, […]

Seniors and S-E-X

Happy senior couple in bed

Updated June 2025 In American society, which seems hellbent on shunning the reality that aging is a natural part of living, the idea of seniors having sex suffers from double taboos. And yet, they persist. Perhaps the current deluge of television ads for various drugs that purport to make it easy and fun for older […]