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A first step would be to find a geriatric care manager in your area that will assess your mother, identify her challenges and problems, and then meet with all of you (you can conference call or even Skype) to help develop a Care plan. Your mother also should see a primary care doctor to evaluate her for medical problems and review all of her medications. From here, the Care manager can develop what options and resources are available to help her stay at home, and hopefully this neutral party will diffuse some of your mother’s anger and bitterness.
You can find Geriatric Care Managers on http://www.aginglifecare.org, and also check local senior centers, hospitals, and home care agencies for local references.